So,you suspect someone is not honest with you and you want to know the truth.
There are few ways to do that...
-You can ask directly without any prewarming.Better still, choose the moment they least expect.
There is a huge chance they'd find themselves at a loss and either confess or delay with the answer.If latter is the case,watch closely their facial expression.While they are making up smth in their mind being scilent,their body language would tell you everything.
-You can also lead your conversation to the topic YOU want to disscuss and then just use a chain of questions giving them less and less chance to escape.
-You may prefer this way.Transfer your situation into third party.Just take any of your acquaintances and tell that such and such did this and that and how strongly you personaly disapprove such behavior or action.Then ask their opinion.Again look for nonverbal signs as well as words and voice (intonation,volume etc).
Give them a hint that you know smth.Start from far away,getting it closer and closer.All this time concenrate on decoding their body movements and facial expression.
But don't just observe them.Use nonverbal communication as well.Your body movements can help you way better than you imagine.So what you can do?
-Try to always face them and make as much eye contact as you can.
-Very powerful position - is standing position.Stand straight (so no slouching)
-Use your hands to emphasize your words
-Don't use the phrases that would lead them to think that you hesitate or are not sure.
If they are still hard to crack,you can suggest a carrot and stick policy.Tell what they will gain by telling the truth and what will lose by continuing to lie.Said - done.Do what you promised.
I'm sure there are some other ways to make a liar to confess.Please,feel free to share your ideas with me.
Lena
Reading and Decoding Body Language
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Really kewl read! Always happy to read up on body language!
Hi , Lena
Great information on reading reading someone’s body language to pick a lye out.. You really know this body language business don’t you
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Matthew Shields
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Lena,
Good suggestions for decoding deception. It can be difficult to unravel a deceptive communicator.
David J. Parnell
Communication Expert
All the stress. All the anxiety. Are they lying to me or not? And I agree that there are some body language cues that will tell you if hey are uncomfortable...or maybe lying.
"Actions speak louder than words" If they tell you one thing...and actions are different...you know for sure they're lying.
Intuitive John Shoemaker
Free Yourself From Stress and Anxiety...Today
It's always good to decode a liar to protect ourselves. Some chronic liar is so natural that they no longer aware they;'re lying any more.
Repeat the same lie for 50 times, it'll become the "truth".
John Ho
Understanding Personalities for Better Influence & Persuasiong
Lena,
It's never very comfortable confronting a liar, so your tips were really helpful. Thank You!
Jennifer Skinner
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Hi Lena ,
Looks very nice, and good info too…
Seize the Day,
Rob Northrup
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it is a useful tool. better to know how to decode untruths so we can work on truths.
Anamarie
Great Information
Robert Kaufer
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Great stuff.
Babysitter, Nannies, and Au-pairs
you have body language nailed
kevin
www.kevinhogan.net
Lena,
More good information on how to detect a liar. This is very useful information.
Darryl Pace
Thanks for the great information.
Scott
www.TrueReviewsForYou.com
What about body language that tells you they are lying to you...but don't want to be lying to you? Is there such a thing?
Can you tell if a person is lying to you consciously (thinking about their lies as they talk to you) or not?
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